Not just Patrick Bateman's problem...
The above clip does a great job of explaining an issue we are hearing more about since the rise and rise of social media.
There are two types of Narcissism, grandiose and vulnerable and they are literally classified as mental disorders. Recently I have heard the term narcissist get flung around for every second person who appears self-centred or rude. But actually, narcissism is a personality disorder which can be incredibly dangerous and even deadly to people around the diagnosed individual.
While it is true that diagnosis of narcissistic disorder may be on the rise, it is equally true that not everyone who behaves with only themselves in mind has a personality disorder (like narcissism). There have been multiple assessments designed to diagnose personality disorders with strong results.
Furthermore, research suggests that specific styles of long-term therapy has had positive results in treating people with personality disorders reflect upon themselves and develop in new directions.
As always, contact me for further information!
3 Ways to Deal With Your Inner Drive to be Perfect!
The worlds best research (so far) into the perfectionism- suicide link has just been released. the results are a little damning (pun intended) for those of us who like things perfect...
Some Kids Really Get It.
In this awesome video, a bunch of awesome kids explain what it feels like to feel dysregulated and also provide a few ways of to bring yourself back down to earth. This is a super easy way to begin to understand mindfulness and why it has such a massive impact on our brains.
You can use this video to explain big emotions to kids (or really big kids) and help them understand their own behaviours.
Its not often you hear therapists refer to counselling techniques as magical, but that is what I heard today. Sitting in a room full of experienced therapists, we discovered what some called a magical way to heal past trauma. No forehead slamming or wand waving required.
If you break a leg, you see a doctor and have it heal. If you get the flu, you take care of yourself and maybe take medication to relieve symptoms until your body heals itself. But when it comes to depression and mental illness, the majority of us ‘deny til we die’.
I guess that is why so much pregnancy related depression goes untreated.
I came across this short video the other day and I almost didn't click it. I am so glad I did though...
I have been reading a lot of very misleading pop-psychology articles on the web about introversion and extroversion, which I think people are taking way too seriously. Some authors have even taken it into their own hands and created new subgroups which are neither introverted nor extroverted, but rather somewhere in between. I think it is time to drop some knowledge on what it is we are really talking about here…
The Safest Ways To Have One of The Hardest Conversations of Your Kids’ lives
I have heard this question more times than I remember. Many parents are aware of the impact that this conversation, and the moments (and years) which follow, will have on their kids. In fact, many parents who I speak with can remember their own parents having these exact conversations with them, and the confusion and potentially trauma which ensued. Naturally, many of today’s parents want to avoid the worst case scenario for their own kids and mitigate any negative outcomes for their children.
Imagine the blue grey volcanic mountains holding their position, while the wind blows down to a Mayan tribe watching from below. A boy walking head down catches an elders’ eyes and she decides to ask the child why he looks so glum. “My parents are arguing again, there is no food or money and this years crops are looking pretty shady- I haven’t really been sleeping very well because of it all.” he says.
“Well then I know just the solution!”
The children now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Socrates 470 - 399 B.C
The youth are living in a world with less violence, better economic stability, better education and an increasingly equal society, yet things aren't all peachy for these prepubescent peeps. This is the best time to be a young person, if you believe the statistics - yet somehow these facts have not reached today's youth who have the highest rates of depression, anxiety and suicide of any generation of young people. How could it be that a generation of people who have access to information like never before, access to the best technology, health care and education, still have such high rates of mental health issues and suicide?
I am a firm believer in all of us being responsible for our reactions, behaviours and ourselves. However I also believe that prevention is better than the cure (and much easier). This is a message to all of you that you have power in the future of our society – the power to positively influence the generations to come.
Are people actually as messed up as their families suggest, are family members privy to more of our dark side and need explanations for what they see? Maybe people really are all mentally ill... or maybe is there something else going on here?
I should start this off by saying I am no authority on this subject. After reading for what feels like years, and training on the subject, I have more questions than answers. Below are some of my thoughts.
How many times have you seen a group of people ‘together’ yet somehow all glued to their phones, only interacting to show one another something funny on their phone?
Most of us have heard of positive psychology and about its benefits (if not go tohttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_psychology and get reading!) made popular largely by Martin Seligman.
The basics of positive of psychology are about teaching ourselves to be happier and thus helping our brains ‘think happy’. My question is; does positive psychology insinuate that to be happy we teach ourselves positive thinking and thus avoid the harder emotions?
Ray Medhora can be found practicing child and family therapy in Sydney Australia in the field of family separation as well as training other aspiring counsellors to help them reach their goals.. Ray always feels odd writing in third person.