Check this video about being authentic despite not always being mindful.
Giving our selves permission to 'be' however we need to be, and allowing ourselves the space to experience our emotions as they come. It is natural, especially in the fast paced Western world and in cities like Sydney, to feel overwhelmed and at times not really have the space to experience the full depth of our own emotion. I enjoy the concept that mindfulness while potentially bringing the Western world a powerful way to combat the overstimulated existence, also potentially adds a new pressure on us about how to behave or how to be. Refreshing video!
And Wherever You Happen To Be...
If you are anything like me, you are managing too many things right now. And it is not only you and I, my friend, our society follows in hordes. Sydney statistically has amoung the hardest working employees anywhere in the Western world.
It turns out that with these amazing gadgets designed to make our lives easier, we are in fact trying to do more things. Add to that the fact that we have supercomputers in our pockets and dozens of screens everywhere we look, and you have the perfect storm for over stimulation and over-functioning.
This article is designed to be the antithesis to life in major western cities around the world today. If you are reading this far in, it safe to assume that you are interested in the concept of slowing things down a notch or two. Perhaps you have even tried a few ways, but haven't quite found the pace that suits you yet. Lets think through some ideas.
Gandhi said that "there is more to life than its speed" and I think he was on to something. I wonder if we were always so busy and what we are trying to achieve by doing so much all the time. Our adrenal glands must hate us. If any of the above ideas work for you, try them. There is no time like the now and now is a great time!
All the best,
The Story of Poor Misrepresented Loneliness....
Perhaps one of our biggest fears in life is being alone - being condemned to spending time in the absence of other people, noise or light is actually considered torture in most parts of the world. Its no coincidence that social media is so prolific and always carries with it the narrative that somehow it "connects us". But this is not another article about the negative effects of facebook or twitter...
Not just Patrick Bateman's problem...
The above clip does a great job of explaining an issue we are hearing more about since the rise and rise of social media.
There are two types of Narcissism, grandiose and vulnerable and they are literally classified as mental disorders. Recently I have heard the term narcissist get flung around for every second person who appears self-centred or rude. But actually, narcissism is a personality disorder which can be incredibly dangerous and even deadly to people around the diagnosed individual.
While it is true that diagnosis of narcissistic disorder may be on the rise, it is equally true that not everyone who behaves with only themselves in mind has a personality disorder (like narcissism). There have been multiple assessments designed to diagnose personality disorders with strong results.
Furthermore, research suggests that specific styles of long-term therapy has had positive results in treating people with personality disorders reflect upon themselves and develop in new directions.
As always, contact me for further information!
If you break a leg, you see a doctor and have it heal. If you get the flu, you take care of yourself and maybe take medication to relieve symptoms until your body heals itself. But when it comes to depression and mental illness, the majority of us ‘deny til we die’.
I guess that is why so much pregnancy related depression goes untreated.
Imagine the blue grey volcanic mountains holding their position, while the wind blows down to a Mayan tribe watching from below. A boy walking head down catches an elders’ eyes and she decides to ask the child why he looks so glum. “My parents are arguing again, there is no food or money and this years crops are looking pretty shady- I haven’t really been sleeping very well because of it all.” he says.
“Well then I know just the solution!”
The children now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Socrates 470 - 399 B.C
The youth are living in a world with less violence, better economic stability, better education and an increasingly equal society, yet things aren't all peachy for these prepubescent peeps. This is the best time to be a young person, if you believe the statistics - yet somehow these facts have not reached today's youth who have the highest rates of depression, anxiety and suicide of any generation of young people. How could it be that a generation of people who have access to information like never before, access to the best technology, health care and education, still have such high rates of mental health issues and suicide?
Most of us have heard of positive psychology and about its benefits (if not go tohttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_psychology and get reading!) made popular largely by Martin Seligman.
The basics of positive of psychology are about teaching ourselves to be happier and thus helping our brains ‘think happy’. My question is; does positive psychology insinuate that to be happy we teach ourselves positive thinking and thus avoid the harder emotions?
Millions of years ago, our humaniod ancestry would travel in packs, tools in hand, searching the lands for food and sustenance. At this point in our history, a threat would stimulate a few simple responses from our body that helped us outlive other species and grow into the people we are today. No response was as quick as our anger.
“The Mind Is The Source Of Happiness and Unhappiness”
Truer words have never been spoken! This is the power of the brain, to shower us in glee one moment and then inundate us with grief the next. The power of thinking is such that one can almost kill themselves by pure thought (literally).
Think about the relationship between parents and kids as a mountainous range. There are highs and lows in the relationship, there are some rocky areas and some beautiful moments. There is also a constant sense of closeness and distance which is always changing and shifting, especially as kids grow into teenagers and young adults. If we think of a relationship in this way, we can see how important closeness and distance is to a parent/child relationship and to relationships in general.
Ray Medhora can be found practicing child and family therapy in Sydney Australia as well as training other aspiring counsellors to help them reach their goals.. Ray always feels odd writing in third person.