Not just Patrick Bateman's problem...
The above clip does a great job of explaining an issue we are hearing more about since the rise and rise of social media.
There are two types of Narcissism, grandiose and vulnerable and they are literally classified as mental disorders. Recently I have heard the term narcissist get flung around for every second person who appears self-centred or rude. But actually, narcissism is a personality disorder which can be incredibly dangerous and even deadly to people around the diagnosed individual.
While it is true that diagnosis of narcissistic disorder may be on the rise, it is equally true that not everyone who behaves with only themselves in mind has a personality disorder (like narcissism). There have been multiple assessments designed to diagnose personality disorders with strong results.
Furthermore, research suggests that specific styles of long-term therapy has had positive results in treating people with personality disorders reflect upon themselves and develop in new directions.
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The Safest Ways To Have One of The Hardest Conversations of Your Kids’ lives
I have heard this question more times than I remember. Many parents are aware of the impact that this conversation, and the moments (and years) which follow, will have on their kids. In fact, many parents who I speak with can remember their own parents having these exact conversations with them, and the confusion and potentially trauma which ensued. Naturally, many of today’s parents want to avoid the worst case scenario for their own kids and mitigate any negative outcomes for their children.
Imagine the blue grey volcanic mountains holding their position, while the wind blows down to a Mayan tribe watching from below. A boy walking head down catches an elders’ eyes and she decides to ask the child why he looks so glum. “My parents are arguing again, there is no food or money and this years crops are looking pretty shady- I haven’t really been sleeping very well because of it all.” he says.
“Well then I know just the solution!”
The children now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Socrates 470 - 399 B.C
The youth are living in a world with less violence, better economic stability, better education and an increasingly equal society, yet things aren't all peachy for these prepubescent peeps. This is the best time to be a young person, if you believe the statistics - yet somehow these facts have not reached today's youth who have the highest rates of depression, anxiety and suicide of any generation of young people. How could it be that a generation of people who have access to information like never before, access to the best technology, health care and education, still have such high rates of mental health issues and suicide?
Are people actually as messed up as their families suggest, are family members privy to more of our dark side and need explanations for what they see? Maybe people really are all mentally ill... or maybe is there something else going on here?
How many times have you seen a group of people ‘together’ yet somehow all glued to their phones, only interacting to show one another something funny on their phone?
Think about the relationship between parents and kids as a mountainous range. There are highs and lows in the relationship, there are some rocky areas and some beautiful moments. There is also a constant sense of closeness and distance which is always changing and shifting, especially as kids grow into teenagers and young adults. If we think of a relationship in this way, we can see how important closeness and distance is to a parent/child relationship and to relationships in general.
Ray Medhora can be found practicing child and family therapy in Sydney Australia in the field of family separation as well as training other aspiring counsellors to help them reach their goals.. Ray always feels odd writing in third person.