Imagine the blue grey volcanic mountains holding their position, while the wind blows down to a Mayan tribe watching from below. A boy walking head down catches an elders’ eyes and she decides to ask the child why he looks so glum. “My parents are arguing again, there is no food or money and this years crops are looking pretty shady- I haven’t really been sleeping very well because of it all.” he says.
“Well then I know just the solution!”
The children now love luxury. They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Socrates 470 - 399 B.C
The youth are living in a world with less violence, better economic stability, better education and an increasingly equal society, yet things aren't all peachy for these prepubescent peeps. This is the best time to be a young person, if you believe the statistics - yet somehow these facts have not reached today's youth who have the highest rates of depression, anxiety and suicide of any generation of young people. How could it be that a generation of people who have access to information like never before, access to the best technology, health care and education, still have such high rates of mental health issues and suicide?
Think about the relationship between parents and kids as a mountainous range. There are highs and lows in the relationship, there are some rocky areas and some beautiful moments. There is also a constant sense of closeness and distance which is always changing and shifting, especially as kids grow into teenagers and young adults. If we think of a relationship in this way, we can see how important closeness and distance is to a parent/child relationship and to relationships in general.
Ray Medhora can be found practicing child and family therapy in Sydney Australia as well as training other aspiring counsellors to help them reach their goals.. Ray always feels odd writing in third person.