“The Mind Is The Source Of Happiness and Unhappiness”
Truer words have never been spoken! This is the power of the brain, to shower us in glee one moment and then inundate us with grief the next. The power of thinking is such that one can almost kill themselves by pure thought (literally).
This quote was probably first spoken over 2500 years ago – TWENTY FIVE HUNDRED! Ever since then we have managed feats that would have seemed absolutely impossible back then, yet we still don’t fully understand the mind. We know that by changing our thoughts we can affectively change our character. Buddha spoke about brain plasticity thousands of years ago when he said;
“The thought manifests as the word. The word manifests as the deed. The deed develops into habit. And the habit hardens into character. So watch the thought and its ways with care. And let it spring from love, born out of concern for all beings.”
If all we need to do is think happy for us to be happy, then why is it that so many of us are so not happy!? It is because we allow our thoughts to control us and not the other way around. When we think something and believe it, we forget to remind ourselves that thoughts are not reality until we make it so.
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” William Shakespeare, Hamlet
We need to remember that true, longer lasting happiness comes from a mind at rest and satisfied with itself, not judging itself. By distracting ourselves in experiences and materials we are allowing these things to dictate our happiness – while this can work in the short term, it is near impossible to keep a continuous stream of positive experience and materials coming our way. This is why we need something else, something that does not depend on external things- something that comes from within. We need to truly love ourselves – even the parts that we think we don’t like!
So the next time you are feeling sad or hurt, ask yourself if it is as a result of losing something external that was bringing you some sort of happiness. In so many cases we are able to avoid the sadness by avoiding the attachment to the thing- be it material or experience.
By training our minds not to judge and to be aware of what is happening from second to second, we can teach our minds not to depend on these distractions and depend on our self for comfort, happiness and peace.
Ray Medhora can be found practicing child and family therapy in Sydney Australia in the field of family separation as well as training other aspiring counsellors to help them reach their goals.. Ray always feels odd writing in third person.